Gujarati Wedding Rituals, Pooja Vidhi, Samagri List
Weddings are celebrated events in India. It is not just one day thing, it is a week long celebration. These are the festive times for family and friends of the bride and groom. Extensive decoration, flamboyance, music, dance, clothes and real tasteful cuisine, are all a part of any wedding celebration here.
Weddings are symbolic of two people coming together to enter family life. The responsibilities are shared by both husband and wife. Wife being the caretaker of home and husband earns and supports the family.
Usually in Gujarati customs, this ceremony happens at the groom’s house. The girl has to carry a matli to the groom’s house from her side. In the matli (a steel container) there are sweets and gifts for the family of the groom.
The symbolic meaning of matli is- The bride’s family is happy with the commemoration and have approved of the groom. This is a real short ceremony. Five women, from groom’s side and five from the bride’s, bless the couple.
This is one of the celebrated dance forms in India. This is performed with wooden sticks holding in hand. It is basically couple dance. This brings both the families together. It works as breaking the ice and this is how the bride and groom get to know each other better.
Commonly known as haldi ceremony in most parts of India, in this ceremony, a paste of turmeric mixed with sandalwood powder and rose water is applied on the skin on the bride and the groom. This is supposed to bring glow on the face of them both. This is a very private affair and is done amongst real close family members at home of the bride and the groom. You can also follow a link to know about Haldi Ceremony |Significance |Ingredients | Rituals | dresses | songs
This is basically a night before the wedding day celebration. In this all ladies of the house apply delicate and intricate henna designs on their hands and feet. Of all the ladies’, bride’s henna is the special one. Usually in Gujarat, there is a complete story that gets designed on the hands of the bride.
Fun part of this ceremony is, groom’s name is written while making the design and in post marriage ceremony, it is fun event, locating the name by the groom, by the groom. (This ceremony happens post wedding).
This is a puja , performed in the presence of the priest and lord Ganesha is worshipped. This is an important ritual as Lord Ganesha is called –Vighn harta (destroyer of any obstacles in happy times). This marks the beginning of further ceremonies. YOu can also read an article to know about Importance of Ganesha Pooja before Wedding
Lord Ganesha, as per Hindu mythology is the supreme head of all the Gods and wards off evils. None ceremonies in India, especially wedding ceremonies, commence without, worshipping Lord Ganesha.
This is one puja which is fixed almost months ago. The timings are decided post observing horoscopes of the couple. Once the horoscopes (kundli) match and things go well and as planned, this puja is organized to bring in peace and harmony between the couple. You can also read an article to know about Importance of Grah Shanti Puja |Meaning|Vidhi|Samagri before wedding
The wedding Day
Gujarat state has very different customs and traditions. Here, people are not married belonging to the same town or area. This is what marks the base for- Baraat entering the bride’s town. In the baraat, Groom is made to sit on the horse or the horse cart. He is accompanied by family and friends. This is the time usually; when his friends dance and make the entire thing look more like a procession. Band is called to perform and people celebrate for nearly an hour or two.
Once the Baraat reaches the venue, the mother of the bride welcomes the Groom and all the baratis. An aarti is performed (welcome puja). In this ceremony, the mother of the bride has to hold the nose of the groom and he is supposed to protect thyself. This ceremony signifies that the groom has come to marry her daughter and she is not an easy challenge either.
Jaimal, the ceremony happens, when the bride and the groom see each other for the first time, at the venue. They put garlands around each other, as a symbol of welcoming each other to the new life. At times, male members of bride’s side lift the bride above, making it tough for the groom to put the garland around her. You can also read an article to know about Jaimala –Latest designs, flowers and songs: A detailed list
Madhuparka is the ceremony, performed by the mother of the bride. In this, she washes feet of the groom with milk and honey. At this time, when the groom takes off his shoes, they are secretly hidden by the sister of the bride.
Kanya agaman, in this the bride is brought to the place where fire is lit for main wedding ceremony. She is brought by her maternal uncle. She is made to sit next to the groom and long single cloth is put around both of them.
Phera and rest of the ceremonies- The cloth is kept for the groom to hold and it is tied to the dress of the bride, which is usually a sari and is tied at the palla. Both of them take 7 circles around the fire and this is considered to unite them for seven lives. You can also read an article to know about Hindu wedding rituals 7 promises or Vachan meaning & importance
While moving around the fire, bride touches seven beetles, with her right toe and the groom recites mantras, as told by the priest. These mantras mean that the groom seeks support from his wife always.
The rituals and ceremonies post the pheras (main wedding ceremony) are:-
- Post the pheras and all the things, seven married women say good things in the right ear of the bride.
- The groom tugs the sari of his, now, mother in law, seeking her permission to leave with his wife, her daughter.
- Post seeking the permission, newlyweds take blessings of all the elders. This too is a form of seeking permission (from the bride’s side) and saying thank you (to the relatives of groom’s side) for blessing them both.
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Vidaai and the ceremonies after
Vidaai is the time for the brothers of the bride to come forward. They escort till the exit of the venue, where after she is looked after her husband.
Post she reaches her new home; she is made to push a vessel full of rice towards the inside of the house. This marks the symbol, which she prays for supply of food, always, in her new home.
No matter what the state is and what religion it is, weddings are all celebrated events everywhere in India. There are many ceremonies which are very common everywhere. For instance the Hadli and the mehendi ceremony are practiced everywhere in India.
While you look around, you will see, marriage, especially for a middle class man’s daughter, is once in a lifetime event. Father of the bride saves for ages for this special day. And when the time comes, it is indeed celebrated.
While speaking to many girls, it was observed that yes marriage is indeed important in Indian society. But, leaving abruptly and all of a sudden is not what the girls want. If times are celebrated, then it gives them a positive poignant separation. After all, no girl wishes to leave her father’s home.